Whether you’re a cat parent or simply have an affinity for your friends’ pets, you’ve probably faced the challenge of winning over a reticent feline. Odds are, it’s not you personally that the cat has a problem with—it’s your behavior. “A lot of the time, the reasons for a cat’s behavior are what people do or don’t do,” says Marilyn Krieger, certified cat behavior consultant at The Cat Coach. With the help of cat behavior experts, we’ve compiled a list of tips to help you make your cat like you. Follow this advice, and you’ll have cats eating out of the palm of your hand in no time—literally and figuratively.